As we change the way we feel---we change the way we act, the way we carry ourselves, and even the way we appear to others. We become more confident, more magnetic, more comfortable in our own skin—which makes us more attractive.
Here are some ways I’ve learned to stop being ageist against myself---to treat myself in a way that’s in alignment with my own philosophy, instead of the messages I’ve absorbed from outside.
As I’ve practiced these things, I’ve found myself feeling so much happier—more vital, more beautiful, more confident. I bet you will too.
Pay attention to your thoughts when you look in the mirror. We greet ourselves in the mirror every morning. What happens when you see your reflection and you notice a sun-spot or a new crow’s foot line? Do you say to yourself, “Ugh, that’s bad; that’s no good”?
Do you immediately start thinking about what you’re going to do to fix it? I know I’ve done that—plenty.
But what would happen if you saw that new little smile line in the mirror one morning and you said to yourself, “Wow! Look at that—you can see what my eyes do when I laugh!” Or “I earned that one.”
Or even—imagine!—“Wow, that’s gorgeous.”
Practice saying it even if you don’t believe it yet. It can be tough to push back against messages we’ve spent decades absorbing.
None of us are going to just magically be able to look at a new wrinkle and go, “Wow! Sexy!” But every time we repeat something to ourselves, we reinforce it.
So if you keep repeating, Ugh, a wrinkle; ack, my skin’s a little more crinkly; yuck, I don’t like those new grays, you’re going to reinforce the idea that those things about yourself are bad, that you should feel anxious and insecure about them.
But if you practice talking to yourself differently—saying wow, look at that beautiful, elegant line—whether or not you actually believe it yet—you start giving yourself a different message.
After a while, if you keep reinforcing that new message, you’ll find you start to feel a lot better about yourself.
What do you think?